Why dudes won’t go to the doctor
Hyland, who was diagnosed with melanoma at 33, said a combination of factors kept him from consulting with a doctor about his “mole-run-amok”: an inability to focus on his own health, a lack of awareness about skin cancer and its signs, an assumption that he would simply get better on his own and his role as a provider.
“I didn’t want to be ‘out of commission’ and unable to do the things that needed doing,” he said. “I felt like I couldn’t afford to step out of the flow because I’d lose my place and my ‘standing.’”
Dave Brewer, a 56-year-old marketing manager from Seattle, said he, too, has never been big on doctor visits.
“I used to go in my 20s when I was sick or had an ache or pain but by the time I’d see them, I’d be better or they wouldn’t find anything,” he said. “When that happens a couple times, you get frustrated and think, ‘Why should I take time off from work?’”
These are common refrains, said Dr. Jonathan Bricker, a public health psychologist at Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center. But behind them are the true culprits that keep guys from going to the doctor: the traditional masculine qualities of self-sufficiency and bravery.
“You’re socialized as a man to take care of yourself, to do things on your own, to be independent,” he said. “And you’re also encouraged to be brave and to take risks which can often come with a reward. These qualities can be helpful to men if they’re investing in the stock market or climbing a mountain or fighting for their country but they’re inconsistent with seeing a doctor.”
Bricker said men (and even women) who have these qualities face a psychological barrier when it comes to seeking out health care.
“You tend to neglect aches and pains,” he said. “You think you can tough it out, that you can be brave and you’ll be able to get through things on your own.”
Unfortunately, white-coat avoidance comes with a cost.
Half of men in the U.S. will be diagnosed with cancer in their lifetime, according to the American Cancer Society, and one in four will die from it. Compared to women, men are 28 percent more likely to be hospitalized for congestive heart failure, 32 percent more likely to end up in the hospital for long-term complications from diabetes and 24 percent more likely to be admitted for pneumonia that could have been prevented by getting an immunization.
And it doesn’t stop there. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, nearly 17 percent of men smoke and almost 35 percent are obese. Nearly 32 percent of men over 20 have hypertension and more than 12 percent are in fair or poor health. As for the life expectancy for men, it’s a little over 76 years, a full 5 years less than the life expectancy for women.
“The consequences for bravery and self-sufficiency are severe,” said Bricker, who researches smoking cessation at Fred Hutch. "You can end up delaying health care and getting in to see a physician either too late or when you need more treatment. And then there are consequences — for you, for your family, and for the health care system because now you have to do more extensive treatment, which is clearly not as cost effective as preventative care.”